What consent actually means
Five words: enthusiastic, informed, specific, ongoing, revocable.
- Enthusiastic: a real yes, not the absence of a no
- Informed: both people know what they are agreeing to
- Specific: yes to one thing is not yes to everything
- Ongoing: check in as things move forward
- Revocable: anyone can change their mind at any time, and that ends it
Boundaries before you meet
Matching intents on your profiles is a start, not the whole conversation. Before you meet, say what you are and are not up for. Ask the same. If something is a hard no for either of you, respect it without negotiation. Alcohol and other substances make consent harder to give and read; slow down.
If a boundary is crossed
Leave if you can. Contact someone you trust. Block and report the person in the app; on HookUs a human moderation team reviews every report and acts on it. If you are in danger or have been assaulted, contact local emergency services or a sexual assault support line in your country.
Questions people ask
How do I talk about boundaries before a hookup?
Say what you are up for and ask what they are up for, in plain words, before you meet. Matching intents on HookUs profiles help start the conversation but do not replace it.
Can someone withdraw consent after saying yes?
Yes, at any time. Consent is ongoing and can be withdrawn at any point. When it is, everything stops.
What does HookUs do about people who cross boundaries?
Block and report are available on every screen. A human moderation team reviews every report and can remove accounts.
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