Ask about the connection, not a category
Instead of trying to determine what someone “really is”, ask what kind of date or conversation they would enjoy. A person’s current interests do not give you permission to define their sexuality. Let each of you choose how much personal context to share.
Make attraction a conversation
Flirting can be fun when both people are enjoying it. Notice whether the other person reciprocates, and ask before taking the conversation somewhere more intimate. A positive response to one invitation does not settle the next one; each step is a fresh choice.
Choose a simple first plan
Suggest a public meeting with a clear time and an easy way to leave. Agree what the meeting is for rather than assuming a date means a hookup or commitment. If either person would rather keep chatting or decline, accept that answer without trying to persuade them.
Continue through the existing app journey
Create your HookUs profile with interests and intentions, explore profiles and make a first move when someone catches your attention. A mutual connection opens the way to conversation. This page neither publishes members nor promises people of a particular gender nearby.
Questions people ask
Is same-sex dating only for people who identify as gay or lesbian?
No identity is assigned by this page. People may use gay, lesbian, bisexual, queer or other language, or no label. Respect the words each person chooses.
Does a same-sex date have to be casual?
You decide what you want, but HookUs is positioned around casual dating and social discovery. Say what you are hoping for and check that the other person understands.
Can someone share my identity because we matched?
A match does not give permission to disclose identity, screenshots or relationship details. Discuss what each of you is comfortable sharing and respect those boundaries.
Meet someone on your wavelength.
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